We have to go through the process of unlearning those things,” said White. We’ve been taught that sometimes our life is not valuable. We’ve been taught to think negatively about who we are.
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We’ve been taught how to hide the kind of sex we have. “As Black gay men, we’ve been taught how to hide our feelings. According to White, the more challenging hurdles will be navigating dating in the absence of same-sex relationship models, resisting the urge to apply hetero normative standards to gay relationships, and unlearning the negative narratives Black gay men have internalized about who we are. Of course, you’re gonna get the ass and dick pics, delete those and focus on the guys who actually want to go on a date,” said White.īeing intentional about your end goal and the story you’re telling potential partners about yourself online is the bare minimum of what should be required of Black gay men who are serious about developing meaningful connections. Say what you want and talk about who you are. Frame your content as to who you are, what you like, and what you’re looking for. Put a couple of pictures of who you are and what you like to do for fun. “I tell guys if you want to find a guy on Grindr or Jack’d, great, put your face picture out there. “If you tell a different story about who you are on Grindr, on Jack’d, you will get something different,” he said. White says it all comes down to the story you’re telling potential partners about yourself. One might surmise that the prospect of finding more than a hook-up after scrolling through dozens of profile photos of half-naked and headless bodies on gay dating apps like Grindr and Jack’d is slim to none. The days of meeting your next boyfriend at a bar, or after stealing glances as you pass each other in the aisle at the supermarket, while slowly looking over your shoulder to see if the object of your affection is still within reach, is happening less frequently in the digital age as more gay men are connecting via dating apps. But I think guys also want relationships," said White. We as Black gay men are always looking for meaningful connections, and it’s not always about sex. One thing that I love about Atlanta is that no matter who you are, there’s a place for you. This city is filled with guys who want connections. You won’t see them in the clubs because they’re at home with their man cooking dinner. Go look in College Park, there’s a bunch of gay men that own homes down there. There are guys here that are in relationships. "There are guys here who want relationships. White tells The Reckoning that there are a plethora of single Black gay men in Atlanta who have employed his matchmaking expertise and are serious about dating with the hope of long-term commitment, which directly challenges the popular perception of Atlanta as a city filled with eligible sex-obsessed Black gay bachelors. “The good thing about my service is that guys don’t have to pay until they agree to go on a date with a guy.” I feel like those are job interviews and those are horrible on first dates because you’re just gonna sit down and ask your list of questions,” he said. He not only finds the perfect match for his clients, but he also plans their first date. One thing White says he knows for sure is that the standard first-dinner-date is a setup for failure. My job is to listen to what they want, but then also give some input on what I think might work well for them,” he said. I do a lot of listening, and then I say, hey, this is the guy that I want to send you on a date with. So I have to verify that they are the person in the pictures. I have to make sure that they’re not catfish. “I meet with guys face-to-face using Zoom just to get a feel for who they are and what they’re looking for. “I do very old-fashioned matchmaking,” said White. So when a gay friend mentioned his less than stellar experience as a client of a matchmaking service, it lit the fuse for White to create a new model tailored for gay men.
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The Pittsburgh, PA native who works in public health by day, was already using his master's degree in professional counseling by providing therapy for gay men and couples as early as 2004.
Gay dating coach and matchmaker Lamont White, 40, has been successfully introducing single Black gay men in Atlanta and across the United States to their ideal mate through his dating service Better Way To Meet since 2014.